The Minimalists Podcast Episode: 149 | Sex

149 | Sex

By: The Minimalists

Published:

09/11/2018

Duration:

1:25:57

Advisory Rating:

Explicit

Description:

Joshua & Ryan sit down with Dr. Christopher Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn, to discuss sex, couples, and nontraditional relationships, and they answer the following questions: If I consider the physical characteristics I find attractive when choosing a partner, am I being intentional or shallow? (12:12) Should I save my sexual accoutrements for the possibility of a future relationship? (31:12) Is building a strong emotional base crucial for a healthy sex life? (41:46) How should I respond to criticisms regarding the traditional life choices of my partner and me, e.g., waiting until marriage to live together and have sex? (49:20) Detailed show notes: minimalists.com/podcast Support The Minimalists: minimalists.com/support

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